On the Bit, With the Bit: Understanding Soft Feel and Connection

The terms "on the bit" and "soft feel" are often used in riding, but their true meaning can be confusing. Many riders struggle to understand the nuances of these concepts, leading to frustration and potentially hindering their horse's progress. This article aims to clarify these terms and explore their relationship to each other, offering insights into achieving true connection and harmony with your horse.

On the Bit: More Than Just a Headset

The phrase "on the bit" often conjures images of a horse with its nose perfectly vertical. However, this is a superficial interpretation. A horse "on the bit" (or, as I prefer, "with the bit") is actually about the horse's acceptance of the rider's aids and contact. It's a state of balance and responsiveness that extends throughout the horse's entire body, not just the head.

Think of a ballerina's contact with the barre. It's a point of reference for balance and posture, not something to hang onto or fear. Similarly, the bit (or the bridle in a bitless setup) should be a point of reference for the horse, guiding their balance and posture.

A horse "above the bit" displays resistance, with the head raised and the back dropped. A horse "behind the bit" avoids contact, often resulting in a hollow back and disengaged hindquarters. Neither of these states represents true connection.

True "on the bit" is about the horse's entire posture, balance, and engagement. It's about the horse's back being relaxed and the hindquarters sending forward, allowing the neck to relax and the connection with the bit to become soft and responsive. It's a three-dimensional balance involving the ground, the rider's seat, and the bit.

Soft Feel: Beyond the Face

The concept of "soft feel" is often oversimplified, focusing solely on the horse's head and mouth. While a soft mouth is important, it's only one piece of the puzzle. True soft feel should originate in the horse's hindquarters and flow through their back, neck, and finally to the bit.

Imagine the soft feel traveling through the horse's spine, from nose to tail. This connection allows for a harmonious flow of energy and communication. Simply softening the horse's face without engaging the hindquarters will only lead to the horse falling onto the forehand.

The Dance of Connection

The relationship between the rider's hands and the horse's balance is dynamic. The rider's contact should be sympathetic to the horse's emotional state and balance. Just like a dance partner, the rider must be responsive to the horse's movements. Constantly "picking up" and "throwing away" the reins creates instability and confusion, hindering the horse's ability to find balance and relaxation.

When teaching a horse to yield to the bridle, releasing the pressure as the horse softens is crucial. However, once the horse understands this concept, a steady contact allows them to find balance and relaxation within that connection. It's like a dancer finding their balance in the arms of their partner.

Throughness: The Key to Connection

"Throughness" refers to the free flow of energy through the horse's body, from hindquarters to bit. It's the absence of tension or "kinks" in the spine that would block the flow of movement. A horse cannot be truly "on the bit" without being "through." These concepts are intertwined.

Developing Connection: A Gradual Process

Developing connection and throughness is a gradual process that begins with groundwork and in-hand work. It's not something that can be forced or rushed. It requires patience, understanding, and a focus on the horse's overall well-being.

The Seesaw vs Releasing Tension

If a horse is bracing against the bit, "seesawing" the reins, like we see riders doing, will only exacerbate the problem by adding emptiness of contact to the tension the horse has. Instead, focus on releasing the tension by gently giving forward with one rein at a time, then the other. This invites the horse to relax into the contact.

Balance and Seat Connection

A horse that is heavy in the reins is often displaying a balance issue or a lack of connection to the rider's seat. Riding the horse "on the buckle" until they reconnect with the rider's seat can be helpful. Remember, a horse's physical development takes time. Rushing the process can lead to imbalances and potential soundness issues.

Understanding the true meaning of "on the bit" and "soft feel" is essential for achieving a harmonious partnership with your horse. It's about more than just head position; it's about the horse's entire body, balance, and connection with the rider. By focusing on throughness, relaxation, and responsive communication, you can help your horse develop a true connection and achieve their full potential.